Throughout the process of grieving and mourning, guilt is often the most prevalent feeling for caregivers.

This guilt arises from:

• Thinking they could have done something differently
• Being able to enjoy life while their loved one may not
• Feelings of failure, especially if their loved has been placed in a nursing home
• Negative thoughts about the person with the disease — wishing his or her suffering would come to an end
• Conflicts with family members because they are uninvolved or critical of the care being provided

In many cases feelings of guilt are linked to unrealistic expectations.

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To help caregivers cope with the feelings of guilt suggest they:

• Accept guilt as a normal part of loss and grief
• Find ways to forgive themselves
• Share their feelings with a friend, support group, therapist, or spiritual leader
• Learn to feel comfortable accepting and celebrating good things in their lives

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There are ways they can begin to cope with grief, including:

• Returning to some aspects of their daily routine
• Allowing time for physical exercise, play, and rest
• Trying to find humor — even in difficult situations
• Bringing balance to their lives by doing things they enjoy
• Preparing for what the future may entail

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